Today's topic is close to my heart...its about long distance relationships and do I believe in them. Well I'm in one and I do believe in them but its the people that are questionable.
It takes a VERY mature couple to sustain a long distance relationship. Not only do you have to deal with the external influences like friends' chatter leaving you to question the commitment of your significant other but you also have to deal with your overactive imagination. These social networks don't help either - your significant other can't see you or feel you so they only go by what you post or tweet about on the web leaving them to misinterpret what they think you are "really" doing when they are not around.
It's damn hard too when YOU are insecure within your own skin - thinking that you are not worthy enough to keep this person wanting, needing and loving you. That's where the overactive imagination starts to come into play. You have to remember to live on faith that this relationship is stronger than pride, can withstand the external forces and overcome the distance.
Me and my bestie are friends first and lovers second. Our foundation to our friendship is the bond of trust not sex. Its more solid that a quick roll in the bed. Its built on honesty when we don't want to hear the truth and an openness to speak our true feelings with one another.
We've both been hurt many times over so we have baggage - that's another issue to contend with. That past baggage that creeps up every now and then. Its not anyone's fault. It's natural for humans to revert to their painful pasts to prevent a repeat of that same hurt (or worse). As a result of replaying that past emotional roller coaster, you forget that the person that you are with is not the same person that hurt you nor are you the same person that was their victim. You have grown (hopefully) from that experience and you shouldn't allow that past to destroy your future.
I'm not gonna lie to you - my clarity on long distance relationships is a work-in-progress. Our relationship is not perfect. We have our issues and fears but I will have to admit our love is a force to be reckoned with. I have a best friend and lover in him and he has that in me. The distance is an annoyance that we pray will be resolved sooner than later. In he meantime, we focus on continually strengthening our relationship.
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