This would be my initial reaction if my child came to me and told me that they were in love with someone my age. First off the person of their adoration would be in their late 30's so right off the bat I'm already suspicious of their intentions. Besides being their mentor, teacher or parent, what does a 30-something year-old have in common with someone 20+ years younger than them?!?!
Besides the sexual appetites being the common link between generations, I don't see what else there is to share. My questions that I would pose to my child would be what on earth do you see in this person? What makes you love them? What do you know about them? Where do you see this relationship heading to? These questions are those that I asked myself when I realized that I loved my bestie. Love is so fleeting at times b/c you think that your feelings of love are real as the air that you breathe but in fact the feeling that you feel is nothing more than misdirected lust disguised as "love". You don't know the person and have no clue about them yet you call it love?
Love is all seeing and knowing that in your heart what you feel is real not what your sexual appetite leads you to believe. Its confusing (I know) which is why I would've "go off" on my child b/c love is complicated - more so when you are not mature enough in love relationships. I would ask the questions to make them ponder not to frighten them out of love but to let them know that loe is not something that you idly walk into and it just happens.
On the other hand, I wouldn't be so easy on the adult that my child is in love with. I would definitely go H.A.M. on this person for twisting my child's mind into believing that their love is real when all he/she wants to physical pleasure. I will treat them as if they are guilty of deception and they must prove to me that their feelings are genuine and that they contribute something positive to their lives just for them to even be in my child's life. If you feel that I'm overreacting, so be it. That's my child and I will protect him/her to the day I die from predators. That's what I think of adult who mess with children are. You know that they are vulnerable yet you indulge your disgusting little fantasies of fooling around with kids. That is utterly appalling!
Needless to say, this situation will not be a pretty one b/c I will not stand for a May-December relationship between my child and an adult. Period.
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