If there was a choice, love will always prevail. Love is more gratifying and rewarding than sex. Sex is an act and nothing more. You can catch feelings of a connection from it but that's most likely one-sided and will cause your heart to break over an act of a few hours (or a few minutes..lol). Is sex worth that heartache? Nope!
I had a "just sex" experience before I met my love (my bestie). I was in a different state of mind. I just had my heart broken by my ex and the LAST thing I wanted was love in my life. I was so vulnerable and didn't have any love to give to myself at times let alone give to anyone else. Plain and simple I was in a "fuck it" mood - fuck love and fuck pain. So when I came across "what's-his-name" I didn't pay him any mind. He was some dude that crossed my path. He was cute but nobody I wanted to start a love-relationship with. He was a player and desired by many chicks, except me. I had a weak moment - I allowed my urges to take over my better judgment - and I had sex with this guy. It was a moment that to this day I vaguely remember. Don't remember how long the sex was or if I liked it b/c he was doing his thang or that I was horny. I was too intoxicated at the time to tell the difference. Whatever it was, it was over. I walked away satisfied - got what I wanted and that was it. He, the player, wanted to stay in touch and be friends - really, dude?! LOL I wasn't in the mood to get close to him so I shut him down b/c my heart was in the off-mode. Looking back, I was unfair and cold to this dude but I knew that if I let myself feel anything it would have been counterproductive to my healing. Though having meaningless sex with someone you barely knew, hindered the process. I don't regret the experience but I did carry that baggage into my love relationship with my bestie. I didn't want our relationship to be based on sex b/c that isn't a solid foundation for me. Love based on sex is not love...its lust.
I'm thankful that me and my bestie waited after meeting to have sex. We spent our time wisely by getting to know each other setting a friendship foundation that turned into love with sex coming afterwards. It was the most beautiful moment that I can remember to this day.
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